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Lies Homeschoolers Believe~Part 2

fishClassics are the standard.
Some classics are good- some are horrible. I grew up as a Unitarian. Many of the classical writers were transcendentalists and it definitely comes through in their writings. I never had my kids read many of the classics. I would go through their literature books and check the stories I didn’t want them to read. I knew in my spirit they were not good for my kids to read. As time went by, I felt more strongly about it, but when I recently read Kevin Swanson’s book Apostate, he articulated for me what I felt so passionately in my spirit and provided additional facts of which I was unaware. When you teach your kids truth, they will more easily discern error. My goal over the years has been to fill my kids minds with truth.
Did you ever wonder who decided that certain books would be know as the “classics”? Did you ever read one of them and wonder if it was something your kids should be reading or that you should be reading? Here are some facts about some of “classic writers”
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What To Do With Boys~Part 5

BoysI started out my homeschooling adventure with 4 boys before we had any girls. We ended up with 6 boys in all and 8 girls. As each child is different, so it goes with boys. My first born son was very self-motivated, loved to set his own goals and beat them, and devoured books. My second son, however was very different. Read More…

What To Do With Boys~ Part 2

Raising BoysI grew up in a family of girls, never having much close exposure to boys. When Rick and I started our family, sure enough we had the first boy grandchild for both sets of our parents. I remember thinking- Wow, what do I do with a boy? As a matter of fact, we had 4 little boys in a row, all 18 months apart form each other! When our oldest son was just 3 months old, we began attending a Sunday school class in which the teacher talked about internalizing Scripture. This was something so new to me, being a new Christian myself.
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Homeschooling In Our House

 

school workPeople have often asked me just what “school” has looked like in our house. Homeschooling is all about your relationship with your kids. Think about it as you plan the  school year. Plan to be with your kids as they learn. I never tell my kids to go do their school. I try to get a load of laundry in while they are getting their chores done and then we do schoolwork together. BE IN THE CLASSROOM! One day I went into the living room because I was tired and one-by-one all the kids drifted in to join me—they are so much more motivated if mom is involved! Read More…

Teach Your Kids To Do Chores Without Making Them Hate It

Learning ChoresEach year I look at my list of ALL the chores that need to be done in our home and decide what chore is best for which child and what I need to do myself for the following year.

I take into consideration each child’s maturity and aptitude. My goal is for each child to eventually know how to do all the chores, but sometimes they just aren’t ready for certain ones.

After deciding who will do what in your home, then take the time to train them thoroughly how to do the desired chore. Try to keep your instructions simple. Some children need more training than others.         I realized this when one of my daughters was assigned to dusting. As I looked around after she said she was done, I would find LOTS of areas not dusted. At first I thought she was just trying to get by without being thorough, but I came to realize she just didn’t see what needed to be done.

So the following week, I gave her the handwriting assignment (she LOVED writing) of going through each room and writing down every item that needed to be dusted. I would point out areas she had forgotten. Then each Tuesday (which was dusting day) she would take her list and check off the items in each room as she dusted. I had come to realize that some kids just need more instruction than others.

Consider having your child watch as you do the chore and explain how what you expect them to do. Once you are sure your child knows how to do each chore, occasionally do it with them just to keep them company and have some special talking time with them. Make it a fun time and you’re also giving them a reminder of how quickly the job can be done. This is especially good for those children who get easily distracted or who drag their feet and take too long doing a job. They’ll appreciate you giving them a helping hand.

Praise motivates kids. They need LOTS more praise than they do correction. Often you will need to call them back to do a job thoroughly, but if you make a habit of praising them when they do right, they won’t resent it when you call them back in the right spirit. Let your kids know they CAN please you. Let them know, tell them they are a part of the family, and you need them and appreciate their efforts in being a part of the family team. Don’t be impossible to please. Realize they are young and in the process of learning. Be sure you don’t expect more of your children than you expect of yourself.

Learn to be the Mom today that you want your kids to remember fondly when they are older. They need to know that you care more about them than you do the chore. We need our kids to learn thoroughness, but it’s NEVER more important than their spirit. If we are constantly picky we will soon wound their spirit, and they’ll make up their minds that they can never please mom, so why bother trying? Having the job done to perfection is never worth damaging your relationship. Remember, our goal is not so much getting the chores done as it is teaching our children to experience the satisfaction of having done a job well, and thereby being well prepared to be an effective adult.

~Marilyn

Helping Your Children Hide God’s Word In Their Hearts~Part 4

BibleHide It, Then Use It!

Once you’ve led your kids in hiding the Word in their hearts, then you need to show them how to put it into practice, by taking them by the hand and using what you’re learning to bless others

By Love serve one another.” Galatians 5:13

When my youngest daughter was 10 years old I told her I wanted her to have a ministry in our church. She was surprised and asked how that would be possible. I told her I wanted her to have a HUG ministry. I told her to look for an older person who was lonely and make it a point to give them a hug every week. As she did this, she began to develop strong relationships with widowers/elderly folks in our church and began to find other ways to be a blessing besides just giving them a hug and cheery greeting each Sunday.

“Look not every man on his own things, but every man also on the things of others….” Phillipians 2:4

LOOK for opportunities to serve- Prompt and guide them in looking for needs that they could help to meet. Teach them how to listen for hints of what a person likes, needs etc. Watch for opportunities to help new moms, single moms, or families whose dad is out of work or who have a sick child or whatever!

Lead and guide them in putting into practice what they’ve learned so it’s not just head knowledge. 

Romans 13:7 tells us “Render therefore to all their dues: tribute to whom tribute is due; custom to whom custom; fear to whom fear; honour to whom honour.”

One way we have put this into practice is by seeking ways to give honor to men who have served in the military. My daughter Kasey became extremely interested in hearing about my dad’s service in World War II. We started reading about the military engagements he was involved in. Then she started noticing men around town with World War II caps on their heads. We would go up and introduce ourselves, thanking them for their service to our country and their role in preserving our freedoms. Then we asked if we could visit them at a later date and hear about their experiences.

Kasey with Mr. FurrowIn attempting to show them honor we’ve been blessed beyond measure! To learn history from those who lived it has been so incredible. We still keep up our relationship with many of them and look for ways to be a blessing to them.

As you seek to look for ways to help your child apply Scripture it becomes a way of life. I love it when they begin to see opportunities to serve, and apply what they’re learning. It might be some work getting it started, but it will come back to bless you many times over as you watch your kids learn to be a blessing to others.

 ~Marilyn