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Teach Your Kids To Do Chores Without Making Them Hate It

Learning ChoresEach year I look at my list of ALL the chores that need to be done in our home and decide what chore is best for which child and what I need to do myself for the following year.

I take into consideration each child’s maturity and aptitude. My goal is for each child to eventually know how to do all the chores, but sometimes they just aren’t ready for certain ones.

After deciding who will do what in your home, then take the time to train them thoroughly how to do the desired chore. Try to keep your instructions simple. Some children need more training than others.         I realized this when one of my daughters was assigned to dusting. As I looked around after she said she was done, I would find LOTS of areas not dusted. At first I thought she was just trying to get by without being thorough, but I came to realize she just didn’t see what needed to be done.

So the following week, I gave her the handwriting assignment (she LOVED writing) of going through each room and writing down every item that needed to be dusted. I would point out areas she had forgotten. Then each Tuesday (which was dusting day) she would take her list and check off the items in each room as she dusted. I had come to realize that some kids just need more instruction than others.

Consider having your child watch as you do the chore and explain how what you expect them to do. Once you are sure your child knows how to do each chore, occasionally do it with them just to keep them company and have some special talking time with them. Make it a fun time and you’re also giving them a reminder of how quickly the job can be done. This is especially good for those children who get easily distracted or who drag their feet and take too long doing a job. They’ll appreciate you giving them a helping hand.

Praise motivates kids. They need LOTS more praise than they do correction. Often you will need to call them back to do a job thoroughly, but if you make a habit of praising them when they do right, they won’t resent it when you call them back in the right spirit. Let your kids know they CAN please you. Let them know, tell them they are a part of the family, and you need them and appreciate their efforts in being a part of the family team. Don’t be impossible to please. Realize they are young and in the process of learning. Be sure you don’t expect more of your children than you expect of yourself.

Learn to be the Mom today that you want your kids to remember fondly when they are older. They need to know that you care more about them than you do the chore. We need our kids to learn thoroughness, but it’s NEVER more important than their spirit. If we are constantly picky we will soon wound their spirit, and they’ll make up their minds that they can never please mom, so why bother trying? Having the job done to perfection is never worth damaging your relationship. Remember, our goal is not so much getting the chores done as it is teaching our children to experience the satisfaction of having done a job well, and thereby being well prepared to be an effective adult.

~Marilyn

Helping Your Children Hide God’s Word In Their Hearts~Part 4

BibleHide It, Then Use It!

Once you’ve led your kids in hiding the Word in their hearts, then you need to show them how to put it into practice, by taking them by the hand and using what you’re learning to bless others

By Love serve one another.” Galatians 5:13

When my youngest daughter was 10 years old I told her I wanted her to have a ministry in our church. She was surprised and asked how that would be possible. I told her I wanted her to have a HUG ministry. I told her to look for an older person who was lonely and make it a point to give them a hug every week. As she did this, she began to develop strong relationships with widowers/elderly folks in our church and began to find other ways to be a blessing besides just giving them a hug and cheery greeting each Sunday.

“Look not every man on his own things, but every man also on the things of others….” Phillipians 2:4

LOOK for opportunities to serve- Prompt and guide them in looking for needs that they could help to meet. Teach them how to listen for hints of what a person likes, needs etc. Watch for opportunities to help new moms, single moms, or families whose dad is out of work or who have a sick child or whatever!

Lead and guide them in putting into practice what they’ve learned so it’s not just head knowledge. 

Romans 13:7 tells us “Render therefore to all their dues: tribute to whom tribute is due; custom to whom custom; fear to whom fear; honour to whom honour.”

One way we have put this into practice is by seeking ways to give honor to men who have served in the military. My daughter Kasey became extremely interested in hearing about my dad’s service in World War II. We started reading about the military engagements he was involved in. Then she started noticing men around town with World War II caps on their heads. We would go up and introduce ourselves, thanking them for their service to our country and their role in preserving our freedoms. Then we asked if we could visit them at a later date and hear about their experiences.

Kasey with Mr. FurrowIn attempting to show them honor we’ve been blessed beyond measure! To learn history from those who lived it has been so incredible. We still keep up our relationship with many of them and look for ways to be a blessing to them.

As you seek to look for ways to help your child apply Scripture it becomes a way of life. I love it when they begin to see opportunities to serve, and apply what they’re learning. It might be some work getting it started, but it will come back to bless you many times over as you watch your kids learn to be a blessing to others.

 ~Marilyn

Helping Your Children Hide God’s Word In Their Hearts~Part 3

Reading the BibleCreate projects to help your kids apply what they’re learning. Instead of just teaching them information, walk them through life situations and show them how to put into practice what they are learning. Here a few suggestions of things we did with our kids that really worked. Read More…

Helping Your Children Hide God’s Word In Their Hearts~Part 2

 

Help Your Kids Learn The WordHere is another practical way to help teach God’s word to your children:

3. CD’s – This is something we just kind of stumbled upon, but one of the MOST EFFECTIVE ways of teaching kids not only to memorize, but how to meditate as well. When our oldest were very small, Rick worked during the day and was gone till almost bedtime for the kids. Read More…

Teaching God’s Word To My Kids…Is It Important?

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Psalm 119:97 says, “ O how love I thy law! It is my meditation all the day”.                                                                                                    

Kids need to be involved with God’s Word during the day.

Memorizing is the first step in meditating. Meditating has been compared to a cow chewing her cud. First she swallows it, then brings it back up, and chews it all over again.

In order to meditate you have to first commit the Scripture to memory by getting it into your mind and then contemplate it, think about it, and finally decide how to apply it to your life. That’s when it makes it’s way from your head into our heart and works out in our life.

Our kids need us to help them with this. 

Do you want your kids to be wiser than their enemies? Then teach them God’s Word.

Psalm 119: 98 “Thou through thy Read More…

Friday Feedback ~ Identifying and Dealing with Offenses

Offenses“Thank you so much for your ministry.

I had been praying for months about the fruit we just weren’t seeing in our homeschool. Then I was blessed to attend a session with Marilyn at AFHE’s convention (2012) and the handout Identifying and Dealing with Offenses has literally changed our lives (and our homeschool)!!

We are now working through Growing in Wisdom as a family Bible study in the evenings, and Proverbs People I, as well as Marilyn’s preschool program. All of the homeschool resources we have purchased from Character Concepts continue to bless us daily.

Thank you for what you do.”

~ Karyn for the Sanchez family

 

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