Q: Did You Allow Your Children to Attend Sleepovers?

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*First of all- let me clarify that this is a question we were asked. We’re not at all saying if you make a different decision in this matter, you are wrong. This is simply the position we chose to follow when our children were young.

A: In raising our kids we chose to be on the cautious side. I’m not sorry that we did. Now as the world seems to be on a slippery slide into depraved immorality, I think parents need to exercise even more caution to protect their children. That’s one of the functions of a parent! If we don’t do it, who will?

One of our jobs is to train our children to learn discernment. Discernment is learning  how to distinguish right from wrong and using that sensitivity to make wise choices in life.

When our kids are young, we need to be the filter for them and make our decisions cautiously.  We need to be careful not to put them in situations where they are faced with moral dilemmas and not have us there to guide them through.

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Why We Didn’t Have a TV When Our Kids Were Growing Up

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I have been asked often why we never had a TV during the years we raised our children.

For one thing, our backgrounds played a part in this decision. My husband grew up in a broken home where his mom had to work to earn the living. He says in many ways, he was raised by a TV set. His mom was just too busy, working to survive. He didn’t want his kids to be raised by the TV, too.

Finances were another reason. When we first got married we were very low on funds and for that reason, we just didn’t get a TV set. We learned to fill our time with other things and pretty soon we realized we didn’t miss having one.

Content was the biggest reason we chose not to have a television in our home. As time went by, when we would see even commercials at other’s houses or shows that were aired, we couldn’t believe how things were becoming corrupt so quickly. When I was a kid we watched Leave it to Beaver or Timmy and Lassie, maybe Bonanza on Sunday nights. Most shows made it clear that there was right and wrong. The good guys were rewarded and bad guys punished. But we began to see a big shift in this in the television world as new philosophies arose. Also you can’t control what comes across the TV screen. Even if you are fairly certain the show is “good”, the many commercials are filling your mind with untrue messages.

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How to be a Contented Mom

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“Boy, I wish…”

How many times do you find yourself thinking or saying this? It’s so natural to think life would be easier, better if only……”

The truth is, God has given us everything right now that we need to be content. Contentedness doesn’t depend on outward circumstances. Contentedness is a matter of the heart and is dependent on our trust in the Lord.

Philippians 4 tells us, “Not that I speak in respect of want: for I have learned, in whatsoever state I am, therewith to be content. I know both how to be abased, and I know how to abound: everywhere and in all things I am instructed both to be full and to be hungry, both to abound and to suffer need. I can do all things through Christ which strengtheneth me.”

Truth is, we can’t do it on our own, but we can choose to let Christ do it through us. Or we can complain, wish, covet, make excuses and reap the result of making ourselves and those around us miserable.

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How to be a Productive Mom- Part 2

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(Be sure to see Part 1 for ways  # 1-5 )

6. LEARNING TO SAY NO

Life’s interruptions happen to all of us. It definitely helps to have our plan in place. When you know what you’re supposed to be doing at a given time, you know what you can’t do.

Learning to say “no” was really hard for me at first. I’d feel bad telling people I couldn’t do whatever it was they wanted me to do; but remember, your time to train your kids is so short. I know, there are days it feels VERY long, but in the whole scheme of life, it is short and will be over before you’re ready for it to be.

I’m not saying you should always say no, but do stop to evaluate. In raising my kids, we ministered to many elderly people and if they had a need, I would usually break from our schedule and take my kids with me to meet that need. That is education at it’s best!

However, there are so many opportunities to involve your kids- good opportunities, that if you choose to involve them in too many, you’ll not be at home much and it’s incredibly difficult to effectively home school your kids if you’re hardly ever home.

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How to be a Productive Mom- Part 1

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Mom’s are busy people. We wear many hats. Much that goes on in the home rises or falls based on us. So, it is important that we strive to be productive women. (and productive about the right things!)

I had 14 children- so life was very busy and it was so important for me to find ways to be productive in order to make the home run as smoothly as possible, so that there was time and energy to focus on the important things, like relationships and training.

Here are some very simple, practical tips that have helped me to do this:

1. SPEAK TRUTH TO YOURSELF

Psalm 90:12 says, “So teach us to number our days, that we may apply our hearts unto wisdom.”

This has been one of my favorite verses as a mom. Why is it that it’s so easy to get distracted about the laundry, the housework, the meal prep, the yard work, washing the windows, etc, etc. and take our eyes off the big picture? Maybe because we are responsible to see to all those everyday details!  But, we need to speak God’s truth to ourselves daily to keep us on the right track.

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A Fun Tradition for Family Trips (and happier travels!)

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Taking a vacation is always a very exciting time. As the weeks and days gradually bring you closer to the date to leave, you can feel the swell of anticipation in the air. The only problem is, that in order to reach the glorious vacation destination, you have to take a trip; and if you have children, you know that traveling can often be a bit of a stressful experience.

I mean, I get it! It’s hard to sit in a vehicle for hours upon hours (and to kids- an hour seems, I think, at least double what it does to an adult!) when you are already excited. All those emotions and antsy-ness, and small spaces are bound to create some…. “moments”.

So, in an effort to make the actual traveling time a little bit more fun for everyone, I began a little tradition.

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