Reason Number 5: To teach them how to grow in Christ-likeness.
Romans 8:29 says, “ For whom he did foreknow, he also did predestinate to be conformed to the image of his Son, that he might be the firstborn among many brethren.” One of the best ways to analyze ourselves is in relation to the character qualities. When we see character weaknesses crop up (and they will) we need to employ the corresponding positive quality. To help you in becoming skillful in this, you can access Identifying and Dealing with Offenses handout (Link)
This list has 32 types of negative behavior, such as lying, complaining, teasing (bet that never happens at your house), unkindness, and also the corresponding positive behavior. We need to remember in dealing with our children, every negative behavior we see is just positive character quality misused. It is our job as parents to guide our children in choosing instead the character of Christ (not that we can ever be perfect in it as he is, but it is he we must learn to imitate instead of giving in to our selfish desires). For instance, if your child is displaying anger, he needs to learn to choose self-control. The handout also supplies you with an insight learned from the Scripture verse,- give a soft answer! Our study Growing in Wisdom (Link) is based on this handout and supplies you with short answer questions from Scripture as well as flashcards to assist you in teaching your children how to learn to choose the positive instead of the negative that comes so naturally!
II Peter 1:3 gives a list of qualities to add to our faith in Jesus. Virtue (godly character) is next in line above knowledge. If we just teach our children academics, they will become puffed up—proud.. We need to teach them to apply godly character in making wise decisions first. With this foundation, learning comes much more easily. Knowledge without character produces educated rebels. Knowledge is not the answer to our problems in society, CHARACTER is the answer!
Reason Number 7: Teaching character builds a solid foundation for future generations.
Proverbs 20:7 says, “The just man walketh in his integrity; his children are blessed after him.” When a dad is a man of integrity, his children who come after him receive a blessing. If you want to insure that your grandchildren and great grandchildren have a secure foundation, remember that you are training their parents today. Make sure you concentrate on character. As you invest your life into the lives of your own children, you are building for future generations.
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