Helping Your Kids Deal with Grief

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A few weeks ago, I posted about our journey with Josh and his battle with leukemia. I got quite a bit of feedback, so felt it might be helpful to tell how we helped our kids deal with their grief when Josh was promoted to heaven.

I’ve found that everyone deals with grief differently and it wasn’t easy with 12 other children to predict how they would respond or to have the wisdom to help each one. God provides the grace and wisdom when you need it- how that truth has been shown clearly to me so many times! When you need it, God will be there to pour out His wisdom to you.

First of all, expect the kids to have different responses. Some want to talk, some don’t want to talk about it, some just need time, some have questions, and some, usually the younger ones seem to have an incredible acceptance, trust and peace. Realize it’s okay and actually normal for there to be different ways in handling it.

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Josh’s Story – Losing a Child to Leukemia

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I realize the title of this post is not a pleasant one. It’s not something we like to think about. But, for many, it’s a reality. 20 years ago it was our reality.

This month marks the 20th anniversary of the home-going of our 17-year old son, Josh. I thought I would share this post with you in hopes to encourage someone who may be going through a similar situation.

God is ALWAYS good. God sees the big picture. We are so limited in our understanding of life. This I know, with all my heart, that God only allows things to happen that conform us to his image and that work for the ultimate good. Although this was extremely crushing to go through, I KNOW that God views all that happens to us in light of eternity. 

This post is much longer than usual, but I found it difficult to divide the story up into pieces. I pray God continues to use Josh’s story for His good purposes….

It was about 11:15 on a warm, sunny September morning when my telephone rang. It was Gene from the doctor’s office. He asked me if Rick was home, and I said no, he was at work. He told me he had some bad news and perhaps I should sit down. I told him I was sitting, and he proceeded to tell me that Josh’s test results had come back, and although he wasn’t positive, it appeared that Josh had leukemia. At that very moment, my life changed drastically, although I couldn’t comprehend how much just then. I was stunned. I don’t remember too much else that he said, except that I should get in touch with Rick and have him call Gene. He would schedule us with an oncologist that afternoon to confirm the diagnosis.

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