Part 1- How to Use God’s Word to Address Character Issues in Your Home


Do you grow weary of hearing your kids complain or argue with you or their brothers and sisters? How can you control their outbursts of anger? Did you know that God’s Word has a LOT to say about those issues and so many more? In fact, the heart of every problem you encounter with your kids is addressed in the Word, and He gives us the wisdom for knowing how to deal with it.

Consider Ephesians 4:

So this I say, and affirm together with the Lord, that you walk no longer just as the Gentiles also walk, in the futility of their mind…..  But you did not learn Christ in this way, if indeed you have heard Him and have been taught in Him, just as truth is in Jesus, that, in reference to your former manner of life, you lay aside the old self, which is being corrupted in accordance with the lusts of deceit, and that you be renewed in the spirit of your mind, and put on the new self, which in the likeness of God has been created in righteousness and holiness of the truth.”

We learn here 3 commands :

  • We are to lay aside or PUT OFF the old self. Romans 6 tells us that our old life has been buried with Christ and we are now dead to sin. However, we must present our bodies to God as instruments of righteousness. “But now you also, put them all asideanger, wrath, malice, slander, and abusive speech from your mouth. Do not lie to one another, since you laid aside the old self with its evil practices” \
  • We are to be RENEWED IN OUR MINDS – We renew our minds by memorizing and meditating on Scripture, by learning what God’s Word says and acting upon it daily. Joshua 1:8 tells us “This book of the law shall not depart from your mouth, but you shall meditate on it day and night, so that you may be careful to do according to all that is written in it; for then you will make your way prosperous, and then you will have success.”  We are promised success if we meditate on God’s Word.
  • We are to PUT ON our new self. Colossians 3 tells us “So, as those who have been chosen of God, holy and beloved, put on a heart of compassion, kindness, humility, gentleness and patience; bearing with one another, and forgiving each other, whoever has a complaint against anyone; just as the Lord forgave you, so also should you. Beyond all these things put on love, which is the perfect bond of unity”  We are to actively strive to cultivate these qualities in our life. The Holy Spirit is there to guide and help us.

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Dealing with Negative, Irritating Behavior


upset guilty little girls sitting on sofa at home

I constantly need to remind myself and you do too, that every negative character quality your kids demonstrate, is really just a positive character quality misused. God is directing you to show your kids in Scripture, what God’s Word has to say about it. For instance,  if someone mistreats you, teases you ,etc. it’s perfectly natural to get angry. What your kids don’t understand is that if they cultivate anger in their lives and it becomes a pattern, they will end up like the angry man in Scripture. No one starts out wanting to be like the angry man. Instead, if you can lovingly guide them to see what God’s Words says and how His blessing is on the man who practices self-control, you’ll be guiding them in how to make a wise decision.

As my kids were growing up, I saw all these negative character qualities in their lives and I was driven to Scripture to see how to deal with them. I was encouraged to see that God’s Word has the answers. I began to study these negative and opposite corresponding positive character qualities. As I studied them myself , I would list Bible references and turn them into questions for my kids to look up. (this is now seen in Growing in Wisdom Bible Study)

There is something about digging it out yourself instead of having it lectured or spoon fed to you. When your kids see the consequences of bad choices and the consequences of wise choices, they realize they have a choice to make.

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