Why Did We Homeschool Our Children?

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We were home schooling when nobody was homeschooling. We started with our firstborn son in his kindergarten year, 1980–81. It started out as a matter of convenience but soon grew into a conviction.

Close to 40 years later, we have never experienced a moment of doubt as to our choice. That little boy in kindergarten is now a college graduate, a lawyer and a married man with five children, all of whom he and his wife plan on teaching at home. He is also the eldest of our fourteen sons and daughters. His younger siblings, some of whom are also the parents of our 16 grandchildren, are homeschooling as well. Obviously, our children are as pleased as their parents are with the method of education we chose.

Over the years, of course, curious people have asked us why we made the decision to begin and continue homeschooling our children. There are many reasons we love it, but for the sake of brevity I’ll share just a few here.

First, we love having so much time with our children.

Marilyn enjoying the little ones

It hurts us to hear parents talk about how glad they will be when the kids go back to school in the fall or after Christmas vacation. We have been there at the delightful times of childhood. We watched them learn to read, answered their questions about God and about toads, and rendered first aid after bike wrecks. We heard all the cute things they said at odd moments. It was we, not some hired stranger, who shared all the special discoveries and charming revelations that make up so much of childhood experience.

Along the same line, our kids grew up together. Really together.

They shared toys, secrets and life-changing experiences. The girls played tea party and the boys scrambled together through the rough-and-tumble boyhood adventures of semi-rural life. Our kids had to learn to resolve the conflicts, large and small that inevitably arise when people live in the same house and spend a lot of time there. I didn’t have that as a child. I spent so much time at school and in school activities by the time I was in high school I was away from home and family nearly all of my waking hours–and that, sad to say, is the way I wanted it. My children had their share of arguments, but rather than just walking away they had to learn to resolve and forgive. They became each other’s best friends asĀ adults, and they still are.

our kids enjoying each other’s company on our yearly beach vacation

Of course, we wanted to give our kids a good academic education.

That’s a characteristic of homeschooled kids in general. The National Home Education Research Institute has plenty of documented research that shows this. Look them up online if you want proof. For us, the key to academic success seems to be the fact that we can create an individualized program for each child. We’re pretty informal about it, but we’ve found that the small student-teacher ratio at home allows us to accomplish a lot more than a teacher in school with thirty children in class. And, we don’t have to march in lockstep with the demands of the clock. My youngest daughter had a great interest in WWII. So, so spent a lot of school time reading about World War II and interviewing old veterans about their experiences in it. She wouldn’t have the freedom to do that in school, where order requires that everybody do the same thing at the same time and for the same duration of time. Homeschooling is like being outside of a bird cage and flying free.

But will they get their basics? Well, we’ve got lots of different types of learners, but most of our kids have always done well on tests. But a lot of people do that in school, too. The question is, how much do they retain after the test? More importantly, what about the things that tests can’t measure such as originality, creativity, determination, initiative and problem solving? We have been very satisfied with the results in our family. They have done ok with the “basics” as they are called, along with some other things that we consider even more basic.

But what about socialization? Oh, the common question. (I wrote a whole book about that a long time ago; it’s called The Socialization Trap.) You can forget about it. Unless you are training your child to live in a world in which everybody is the same age, he is better off in your home, neighborhood, church, workplace and wherever you go than he would be in the grossly artificial environment in school. There’s plenty of research showing that the worst social environment you can put your child in is an age-peer group. But you really don’t need the research if you have any capacity for logical thinking.

Kasey with our friend and veteran Mr. Reed

Remember the anti-social things you did as a young person? The first time you sneaked a smoke, shoplifted a candy bar or experimented in immoral behavior, you probably weren’t in the company of your grandmother. Most likely, you were being egged on by kids your own age, those whom society is so afraid we can’t get along without. Spending so much time surrounded by immature social models is no great inspiration to adult responsible behavior. My daughter, (the one who loved WWII history) learned about adult life and responsibility from veterans, men old enough to be her great-grandfather. If the purpose of youth is to prepare for adulthood, which way do you think works better?

It’s also important to my wife and me that we pass on our values to our children. Some people call it brainwashing, but our nation has been served pretty well by the passing down of important beliefs. And the rest of the world around us certainly doesn’t hesitate to influence the values and attitudes of my children.

Lasting attitudes about life are transmitted to children through advertising, entertainments, peers and definitely though schooling. How can teaching history or science with no mention of God fail to condition a child to assume that God isn’t all that important? And that is not to mention the anti-God and anti-morality attitudes that are communicated by such materials as Heather Has Two Mommies, a book used in some public schools and possibly some private ones. It’s no big secret that most schools today promote socialism, homosexuality and materialism at least passively and often actively. Render to Caesar what is Caesar’s and render to God what is God’s. My child’s values are owed to God. As Voddie Baucham put it,” if you render your child to Caesar, don’t be surprised if he grows up thinking like a Roman.”

I could go on and on about why we started teaching at home and have grown ever more committed to it over three decades.

I pray that you will give this careful consideration. As I have learned in over forty years of parenting, they’re only young once. It’s a shame to miss most of it by sending your kids away from you so much of the time. Please use wisely the only chance to build a lifetime of memories together. You won’t be sorry.

 

 

Rick

Rick

Rick Boyer wears many hats. Parents know him as a speaker/author who tackles the challenges of parenting head-on.He offers practical, effective solutions based on Scripture and over 40 years of parenting experience.He and his wife, Marilyn are the authors of many popular books on parenting as well as the Bible-based Character Concepts curriculum.

To homeschooled kids, Rick is "Uncle Rick," a dynamic storyteller who brings Scripture and history to colorful life and turns them into delightful and life-changing character lessons. Check out his audio recordings at www.UncleRickAudios.com
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Rick Boyer wears many hats. Parents know him as a speaker/author who tackles the challenges of parenting head-on. He offers practical, effective solutions based on Scripture and over 40 years of parenting experience. He and his wife, Marilyn are the authors of many popular books on parenting as well as the Bible-based Character Concepts curriculum. To homeschooled kids, Rick is "Uncle Rick," a dynamic storyteller who brings Scripture and history to colorful life and turns them into delightful and life-changing character lessons. Check out his audio recordings at www.UncleRickAudios.com

One Reply to “Why Did We Homeschool Our Children?”

  1. I am always blessed by these posts, but this one is just amazing!!!!! so true that it is of so much value that our children grow up in OUR homes and do school in OUR homes.
    Thank you for your continuous encouragement.

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